Dan might not agree even though he has heard me say this before. A marriage is like a machine. It needs maintenance. You can't just get it up and running then sit back and enjoy the ride. You need to stop for fuel, check the air in the tires, grease the bearings and add oil occasionally. You can equate the machine metaphores to doing what needs to be done to address the needs of the other person and the relationship
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I'm not always great at it but I am aware of what needs to be done. I hope that puts me one step ahead anyway.
Char and I have been together for 28 years. I, (we) must be doing something right.
Tom