I kept the wife I had for 35 years.
Then, she had a psychotic break.
One day, she walked downstairs with a little bag, and walked out the door. Nobody knew where she went, and my daughters and I were all at a loss. Then, I get a call "I'm living with my sister, I took half the house money out of the bank, and I want a divorce."
Fast forward a bit- She divorced me, and me and the kids (Not really, they're all adults all on their own) STILL had no idea what was going on....her sister, the loving aunt that she is, wouldn't tell the girls anything.
A few months later I get a phone call from the ex saying "I'm in trouble, I need help. I have been hearing voices and seeing things since I was 20..." Her awesome sister told her it was stress and "she didn't have time for this".
I took her to a psychiatrist and within 10 minutes of arriving they took her away to the mental hospital. She was there 10 weeks.
After she was ready to be released, nobody would sign for her....(they were all afraid after everything came out).
So......I picked her up and moved her back in with me. She's pretty much a zombie, and she is not my wife in any way. She is basically like an 8 year old.
I have to take care of her, and it's pretty trying most of the time.
Not much else I can do.