I always work my way around the bolts so that they all come down to an even tightness and stop once the spokes are squeezed securely between the rubbers, if the nuts used are the nyloc lock nutsthey will stay put pretty good once they are snugged down.
main thing I can recommend is to tighten things down evenly, if all is even the sprocket should run true when the wheel is spinning.
Many people dog the "rag Joints" but I have yet to have an issue with and of mine, my spokes stay tight and I ride the crap outta my bikes on very dusty rough dirt roads, never oil my chains.... and I mean NEVER OIL my chains, I use a dry lube for chains, my chains and sprockets last and stay put without issue or failures of any kind.
Hope this helps HardcoreHadaway
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