Bummer K. Can be monumentally frustrating. Don't give up. You will get her up and running happily.
For #1, I use "Loc-tite"
#2, small hose clamps
#3, There are some great threads to help with this. This one was at the top of the search.
or more options; http://www.google.com/cse?cx=partner...tch&gsc.page=1