I just tried something and I think I found the problem thank's to Joe and cityevader. Welcome to the forum by the way
It is so obvious now but I guess sometimes you just need someone to point it out. I used another spoke and noticed there seemed to be more play in the hub were the one spoke alway's breaks. The diameter of that hole is bigger then the other's. I most have damaged it before but never noticed. There just does not seem like the head of the spoke has enough shoulder there which makes sense why the head always breaks off.
I'm just going to get a new set of wheels these are over five years old.
Thank you cityevader and godfather