...Im going outside... I may be some time...

Jemma Hawtrey · #1 (**permalink**) 07-12-2008, 09:27 PM

Hi all,

I might disappear for a while fairly shortly... its not because im bored of the subject...

Some of you here know my situation, some dont. I am not going to rehash that here. At the moment my partner is in hospital terminally ill. She is not expected to survive longer than a couple of months, she sleeps most of the time, and is constantly in pain. What makes this all harder is she is only 22 years old.

When what must happen happens, I will be in no fit state for a while to be online or talking to people so I make my excuses in advance if I seem to disappear for a bit... I will be back when I have done what I will need to do and dealt with the situation enough to get back into the swing of life in general.

I just thought I should let people know

Jemma xx

**Ilikeabikea** · #2 (**permalink**) 07-12-2008, 09:55 PM

You will be in our thoughts and prayers..................

**fairracing31** · #3 (**permalink**) 07-12-2008, 10:06 PM

I second that...I wish the best for you Jemma.

deacon · #4 (**permalink**) 07-12-2008, 10:11 PM

I will keep a good thought for you both.

Easy Rider · #5 (**permalink**) 07-12-2008, 10:33 PM

I'm sorry to hear about your partner. Take care of yourself and your MB Family will still be here when you return.
Take care,
Ken

**Bikeguy Joe** · #6 (**permalink**) 07-13-2008, 10:06 AM

Feel free to PM me or others if you need to talk.

I have some experience with your sort of situation.

Motoschwinn · #7 (**permalink**) 07-13-2008, 01:57 PM

You are in my thoughts Jemma.

Jemma Hawtrey · #8 (**permalink**) 07-20-2008, 11:25 AM

An update on the situation. Sasha is sleeping more than she was but is still lucid when she is awake. Her pain is well controlled although her blood pressure has been a little high recently.

I asked her an important question last night - I am still awaiting her answer.

I'll let you know what happens a how she is whenever there are changes.

Thank you again all for your support and kind words. It means alot to both of us..

Jemma xx

deacon · #9 (**permalink**) 07-20-2008, 02:17 PM

Well you remember to take care of yourself as well as your friend. She would want that I'm sure. Sleep enough and try to eat well little things that don't seem important are.

The day I arrived in the republic of Vietnam, most of my life ago, I was met by an old hand there. He said, "Lesson one here is save yourself first. Because you can't save me if you are dead."

At first I thought that was selfish then I realized it really wasn't. Like he said you can't save anyone else if you aren't well. Ride your bike carefully.

Jemma Hawtrey · #10 (**permalink**) 07-20-2008, 02:56 PM

Hi Deacon,

Thats good advice. Just wish I could make a save in this situation

but thats beyond my abilities. I just have to give all the support I can and be there as much as I can.

Thank you for the nice thoughts

I got the riding hat because having compared the two the riding hat is alot stronger and better padded than the cycle helmet. If people are interested there are some available that are vented and more like a cycle/motorcycle helmet - but designed for falls from 17 hands or more at 30+mph.

Jemma xx